When we don’t feel safe, everything else becomes difficult — love, creativity, learning, even rest.
When we do, life begins to flow again, effortlessly.
My conscious dance journey — Dancing With The Master — opens the 9-month program with the very first request every human comes into the world with: the Request for Home.
(Miraculous Parenting — Shai Orr)
Home means safety, nourishment and containment.
If you grew up with an attuned, relaxed, depressed mother, this blog is not relevant for you, but if your parents were busy surviving, overwhelmed, if there was tension at home, if there was a lack of safety, then you are probably, like me, on the journey to find your inner Home.
Home means that here and now, it is always safe. What I feel is my truth, and this is what I follow. I am loved and nourished, both physically and emotionally, regardless of the circumstances. Not many parents can provide this ideal to their children, mostly because they didn't receive it themselves as children, but also because the lifestyle of modern competitive culture, where we are constantly on the edge, feeling not enough in survival mode or on the run of to the next level, to the next step, to the next achivement - we forget what really matters - relashinships.
When I am at Home, I can rest inside myself - it's like taking a warm bath after a cold, busy day, my nervous system begins to remember what safety feels like. I can start to feel that my body and emotions are an integral part of my life, and I can acknowledge and accept both the comfortable and less comfortable feelings I experience right now.
When I am Home, I am in the present moment and trusting that whatever comes my way, I can contain.
When I am Home, fear, anger and grief are not a threat anymore because I have the capacity to contain.
What Does “Home” Feel Like?
Home is the place where you no longer need to fight for nourishment.
Where you feel protected, content, and held — not because everything is perfect,
But because my body finally believes: I am safe here.
When we feel at home in our body, abundance becomes natural.
We stop chasing and forcing.
We soften into being nourished — by life, by breath, by connection.
The Roots of Safety
Safety begins before we are born.
Already in the womb, the baby’s nervous system learns from the mother’s heartbeat, her breathing, and her environment.
It feels the world through her — it learns the world through her, through sound, rhythm, emotion and the chemistry that flows through the bloodline.
If the mother feels calm and supported, the baby’s body learns: It’s okay to be here.
If she feels fear, instability, or loneliness, the baby’s system becomes alert and tense.
And so, long before we speak our first word, our nervous system is already whispering stories about the world:
It’s safe.
or
Be careful.
As we grow, these early imprints shape how we move through life —
how we connect, how we protect, how we rest.
My Body is My Home
In my work with conscious dance and movement, we practice returning — again and again — to the body as our home.
We listen, we breathe, we move, we allow what’s inside to express and unfold.
The dance becomes a safe laboratory to expand our capacity to feel —
not just the pleasant, but the full range of human emotions.
Integration vers Healing:
I appreciate how Michael Brown (The Presence Process) describes the word 'healing' as something broken within us — something wrong, something that makes us feel incomplete — and that we need to be fixed. However, in reality, we are whole beings with emotional past imprints that hold us back from showing our full selves, and those emotions require integration. I would rather use the word 'integration' rather than 'healing'.
This is how integration begins:
By feeling what is alive, rather than escaping it.
By expanding the container that can hold our emotions, sensations, and memories.
By letting the body teach us that even pain can be safe when held with awareness, and better with two good eyes and a heart to simply be with.
When we learn to stay fully present with what is — our breath, our sensations, our emotions —
We return home.
The Nervous System’s Language of Safety
In the Polyvagal view of the nervous system, there are three main states:
- Ventral vagal — the state of connection, safety, and social engagement
- Sympathetic — the state of fight or flight
- Dorsal vagal — the state of freeze or shutdown
In our lives, we constantly move between these states, much like a dance.
When practising Homecoming, on the dance floor, we are learning to recognise them — to know when we are safe, alert, or frozen — which gives us back our agency, our power and our possibility to choose.
Simple practices, such as looking around the room, making eye contact, or connecting with your breath, can signal safety to the body faster than any words.
They remind the nervous system: The danger is gone. You can rest now.
Coming Home, Together
"Safety doesn’t come from removing all threats.
It comes from the presence of connection" — Steven Porges (The Polyvagal Theory)
Every time we share presence in a circle, move together, or witness each other with our hearts, we strengthen our inner home muscle and rewire the story on the mental and biological levels, saying: "Here and Now It Is Safe!"
And when I feel safe, I can be just as I am — authentic and real — and still be loved.
That we can be vulnerable, and still be safe.
When I am home, feeling safe and protected, I feel that the world is for me, not against me. I believe life is a fascinating playground to explore, a place where I can be curious and enjoy the game.
This is the art of feeling at home —
a home that lives inside the body,
and moves wherever we go.
✨ Invitation
If this speaks to you —
if you long to come home to your body, to safety, to connection —
I invite you to join one of my upcoming conscious dance workshops
or the Dancing With The Master program.
Together, we move, we feel, we come closer —
until home is no longer a place we look for,
but something we live in, wherever we are.